I Think Therefore I'm You (The Mating Game)
Women as chameleons. We've all seen it, and most have done it. We may not even be consciously aware of it's happening, but it happens much too often. Her whole life she would rather have her teeth pulled without a sedative than listen to Billy Ray Cyrus; the next she is singing Achy Breaky Heart like she was born to it. She's spent holidays spouting the evils of red meat (it's "bad for the environment", you know ;>); the next she's barbequeing steaks. She has developed enough close friendships with gay men to make you wonder if she's an official " What happened was she found the one (beit male or female), and in order to make the Relationship "work," she's adopted his/her opinions. Did the new squeeze require these "changes" in order to continue with the relationship? I used to think so, but I'm not so sure anymore.
I used to think this only happened because the was so delicate the woman felt she had to pander to it, but I'm seeing this happen with women as well! Why are women so willing to give up a large part of themselves? Is the price really necessary? Does anyone find this attitude/change as offensive as I do?
On the face of it, I would have to assume the new squeeze must be extremely insecure. They can't cope with a difference of opinion? How do they get through life?
I don't agree with everything my spouse opines, but I don't expect her to agree with me every time either. Does it mean we aren't meant for each other? I don't think so. If my spouse agreed with everything I said/felt, I think I would find life a little boring. A good debate is good for the soul! It is merely a reminder that life is rarely black and white - there's a heck of a lot of grey too!
A good friend of ours recently hit the "dating market," and almost just as quickly, jumped into a relationship. They haven't moved in together, though they spend a great deal of time together, and they've agreed not to "date" others. I've been watching our friend go through the "chameleon" syndrome, and doing my best to keep my thoughts to myself. I've listened to this woman mock others for wearing "make-up" and swear she'd rather have her teeth pulled out, yet the new squeeze has talked her in to it. Maybe our friend will actually enjoy wearing make-up and blouses; enjoy wearing her hair long again; and even find satisfaction in the chosen career. Maybe all of these changes are "for the best." But I can't help mourning for the person she used to be. Somehow, she seemed a happier person, to me, before all of these changes.
Well, this was my "quiet rant" on the topic. Let me know what you think!